Reading Mixed Signals
Sometimes it seems like men are from a different planet altogether especially when you are trying to start a relationship with them. Do not give up hope though because guys can be better understood with a bit of a relationship breakdown. It is tough when you are first starting a relationship because you have no idea what to expect. You are unsure of whether this could be a lifetime partnership or a relationship that lasts for the duration of a few months. The good news is that relationships are not easy for anyone. So there is no reason to feel like you are the only one struggling. One of the hardest hurdles to climb is the definition of whether you are in an exclusive relationship or more of a friendship.
There have been couples who have dated for three years, decided they are in essence just friends and then remained friends for a lifetime. Are you starting a relationship? First look at the guys signals. Usually if a guy is really interested in you he will let you know. He will call you and want to make plans with you. If a guy wants something or someone they usually pursue it, being the aggressor. If you feel that you always have to call him and ask him out then this might not be the blossoming of a long-lasting relationship. Remember that it is okay if he isn’t interested because as the old saying goes there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Let the guy put effort into the starting of the relationship. My friend let her husband set-up the beginning foundations of their relationship, much to her own anxieties and before she knew it they were standing hand-in-hand on a cliff, overlooking a waterfall, as he said “We really make a cute couple don’t we.” Pay attention to his interest-level signals such as if he calls you, wants to hang out and takes a genuine interest in you.
Another tough relationship starter is defining the terms of the relationship. Some guys will tell you that they want to be exclusive and then you will catch them out a week later with one of your friends. It is important that when a relationship first starts to sit down and have a heart to heart discussion of what you are both looking for in a relationship. This way you will know what to expect and what not to expect. Once the general guidelines are formed you can begin to create a relationship foundation. Also, if he says he wants to be exclusive but you find out that he is not then stick to your guns. Tell him how you feel, what you want and what you will not put up with. To get what you want out of a relationship you must not be afraid to voice exactly what you want.
There are many mixed signals that guys send out. The most important thing to remember when starting a relationship is that if he doesn’t seem interested “he’s just not that into you.” Starting a relationship is a new and exciting opportunity. Love is really the most uplifting and amazing feeling we can ever experience. Let the relationship flow naturally, open your heart and enjoy all of the possibilities.