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I agree with this article, in the fact that maturity levels depend on life experiences and personal goals. I am 19 years old, and I recently got into a relationship with a woman of 25 years. Everything was fine, but the one thing that bothered me the most was that she was too worried about what people had to say. I let her know my goals in life, she let me know what she wanted to do with herself as well, and it seemed like she wanted to get herself back on the right track. She is a single mother, and I accept the fact that she has a child, and I told her that it didn’t bother me, to me it will be another experience that I can learn from before I am ready to have my own. Everything was going great, until the whole age difference was mentioned. She asked me if that bothered me, and I told her that honestly, I never even thought of it. When we were together, she devoted all her attention to me, and vice versa, but then she would ask me what people would think about it. I told her that I really didn’t care what people think, but all she thinks about is what society and her family have to say about it. My mother accepted her and her son, she knew that I wasn’t making a mistake, because she is a single mother as well. Recently, she told me that the age difference really mattered to her, so I deceided to have a talk with her about it. After a month, why should feelings suddenly change, just because someone else comments about the age difference? She wasn’t thinking about that when we would spend quality time together. It’s not everyday that you can find someone that is willing to accept you, support you, and even be willing to work things out with you, so I’m hoping that she can realize that before it’s too late. Like the famous quote states, “You never know what you have until it’s gone.”

it is true about age difference and life experience. i am 24 with someone 27 years my senior. and when certain instances arise in which we disagree, because of the age difference, several times he feels he is right and has the wiserness over me. and me being so much younger often i hesitate because of those reason even when i may be right. but when we have good times together we dont think of the difference. but when it comes to certain people it need be better off we keep it on the hush hush. why you ask if you love each other should it matter because other peoples happiness depends on it

I love the quote at the end of this article “When it comes to love, age is just a number.”

Age is just a number. I am 24 and am dating a soon to be 50 year old man. Let me tell you what I have never been treated so good in my life. It is amazing. I know that there is a huge gap in our age and that his children are closer in age to me than I am to him. Also my parents are closer to his age than he is to mine. So I was really worried about everyone meeting and I was going to hide things for a long time too. Then I realized if I am happy and in love I am not going to hide anything. So my parents and his daughters now know. We have met eachothers families and it is awesome we all got along and it went much better than you could expect. Life is good. So whatever anyone wants to say I really don’t care. Unless you are living my dream, you have no room to speak!

I am 18 and am dating a man of 29, he is the best thing that has ever happened to me! I think that he is way more mature than most guys I have met, and he treats me with respect. I dont even look at our age differences because love is all that matters, age has nothing to do with love.

I agree that age is just a number. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 24. We were friends before we entered into a reltaionship and now that we havemade that step, it is better than expected. Everyone has their opinions but people can not possibly understand age differences unless they have seen one that was successful or were in one themselves. I believe that a true connection is a true connection where as age is JUST a number.

hi everyone! i LOVE the article and i have to say that i have a HUGE crush on a guy that is 24. I am 14, almost 15. he is great! the best person in the world and i love him. i am just afraid of what society would say about me and him going out. should i care? what should i do?

I completely agree. I am 24 years younger than the man I love in love with…. and could not be happier. In my opinion age doesn’t matter. With him and I, it was as if we were only 2 years apart. We’re close spiritually and mentally…. and share the same interests. We were terrified about letting people know, but then we did… gradually. He’s an author and I’m an artist, so our interests branch off of one another. ^^ Never have I been so happy… never have I felt so apart of something and I know this man is apart of me… He never stops amazing me, the things he says and does…. so people may look at us weird or different, but who cares? Look at the world that is so prone to divorce…. maybe if people fell in love for the reason that they are in LOVE instead of just because it seems right, we wouldn’t have such a high rate of devorce….

I say follow your heart, and when it comes to love, age is just a number.

Hi. I have just finished reading the article “Relationships & age difference”. It is found, in my opinion, to be quite accurate in the message it is trying to portray, however, it is right to say that age, at different stages in a person’s life, does present difference of oppinion & maturity. I am a 20 year old woman & am seeing a man who recently turned 30, & find him to be more mature & somewhat ‘like-minded’ than most of my previous boyfriends, (who were all around my age). we have been together for 3 years, since i was 17. It never occurred to me that there was an ‘age difference’, i merely saw him as a guy i loved, despite the numbers. In the beginning, age did come into play, however, as i was still a teenager & wanted to ‘experiment’ & wasn’t too keen on settling down with ‘the one’.. & even he wanted to just ‘have fun’ with our little ‘experiment’, that is, untill he got to know me better & saw that i wasn’t just a teenage girl fooling around. He said he began to realise there was more to me than meets the eye, and it was definately something he was wanting to discover on a deeper level. That’s when things got serious.
We started ‘officially dating’ & took things as they come. Alot of people & close friends were a little weary of the age difference, but that didn’t seem to bother me, as you can’t stop fate, and can’t change who it is you fall for.
With that said, there are certain things that get in the way when it comes to age. for example.. a positive for me, in my situation, is that the older man said the reason age wasn’t a problem in our situation, was because he saw me to be more mature than most other people my age. Although, however like-minded we were, there is a certain life experience, that was somewhat ‘missing’. this created most of the problems we seemed to encounter. Last year he told me he was at a stage in his life where he saw it neccessary to ’settle down’ and start on all that was conventional and typical of those men (& women) his age.. To start a family; buy a house..
And although, i am 10 years his junior, I felt that i loved him & felt the same way, even, if, a little sceptical.. But that all changed when he decided to go oversea’s for a year.
He owned a business for 7 years, with it came alot if stress. So when he sold it, he decided it was time for a break. So he wanted to travel through Europe for a year, free of restraints, obligations & stress.
He has been gone for 4 months now and one time when we spoke on the phone he told me that all he wanted before, was still present in his mind, it just wasn;t his main priority. In saying that, it shows that people change. quite easily & inevitably. So it can be fair to say that although you may be ‘at the same stage of life’ and wanting the ’same’ things at one point in time, but things do change. and so do people. Often age can restrict the power of being at the same stage in life at the same time as the one you love and care about.
All i can say now is.. Age is a number. Love is the game we play when we’re all out of numbers. We just have to take our chances…

i dunt think that a 5 year age difference matters but i really do agree that when it comes to love, age aint nuthin but a number. =]

I am 23 years old, and I have fallen head over heels for a guy who is 39 - so that’s a 16 year age difference. I don’t think it matters at all that he is, as so many of my friends have put it, “old enough to be my father”. In fact, I fell for him before I had any idea how old he was. I’d be lying if I said it didn’t bother me at all when I found out, since he looks at least 10 years younger than he actually is. However, finding out his age didn’t change my feelings for him at all. He is perfect for me, he makes me happier than I’ve been in a long time, and I would love nothing more than to spend the rest of my life with him. So, I don’t think age really matters - unless one of the people involved is under the age of consent. What matters is that you love each other, and you’re happy. You shouldn’t let what everyone else might think bother you too much.

I agree too. I met a woman 20 years my junior and I can honestly say that we are spiritually compatible and share dozens of interests together. But what is really amazing is simply that we are so nicely matched. We both had to talk openly about our age difference in the beginning, but we did so with smiles on our faces…we respect, adore, and love one another and really do not care what anyone thinks…what mattered is our life experiences, and in that we found peace and happiness…

I am 37 and the man I see is 52. I think I have found love! An older man can please a woman’s soul! Also, they tend to be more appreciative towards the relationship. They are mature and most know how to treat a lady RIGHT! I have never been so happy in my life and I feel special when I am with him! Kandi in Ohio.

i am 30 and i met the man of my dreams and he is 49. We are great together and i have never had anyone to complete me like him. At first i was a little concerned. But i would rather have him than anyone. The level of passion and warmth is amazing. I thank the heavens every day for bringing him into my life. so for anyone else out there, like me, age is just a number like they say. I love my baby.

well i am 18 and my bf soon to be my husband is 32, he is the best thing which has ever happened to me….. he understands me more than even i do of my self. and yes we love each other very much, and we ain’t gone let something silly as age to come between us. and yes i do agry with you age is nothing but no. (of long you have lived in this planet earth), it can’t stop to people love.

I am a 42 year old man who met what he thought was the girl of his dreams, she is 25. She has a problem with the age difference but she also tells me that most guys her age are only interested in sex or seeing how many women they can be with. I have tried convincing her that age is just a number and that her maturity level and intellect is much higher than most girls her age, she has been living on her own since she was 18.
The thing is, look at the big picture. When I am going to be in my 60’s and ready to settle down a bit, she will still be young and ready to experience more of life, not to mention the fact that there is a much greater likelyhood that she is going to outlive me.
I can see both sides, but if true honest love is felt between the two, anything goes. We only come around on this planet once!

I enjoy about dis age difference.in my suggestion age differencedoes not matter but what matter is love.i am 32 year old man in luv with 25 yrs old girl and we living happily.

I have been with a man 9 1/2 years younger than me, for the past 5 years. We were married 6 months ago. Our age difference was never an issue for me, and he said it wasn’t for him either. We always discussed our feelings about marriage, children, adventure, travel, etc., and were predominantly on the same page, except when it came to children. I am 36 years old, and he is now 27. We always knew we would have “the clock” against us a little bit. We both wanted children, but the reality was that we may need to have them sooner than he was ready for. About a month and a half ago, we found out about our unplanned pregnancy. We hadn’t planned on really starting to try for at least another year or two, to give ourselves time to settle into our marriage, enjoy being newlyweds and develop our careers a bit further. This pregnancy has put quite a wrench in things, and now we seem worlds apart in our age. He was really not happy about the idea of being a father at 27, and suddenly, my age became a huge issue for him. He felt I was now “old”. He has told me i have “aged so much in the past 6 months”. I now obsess about every wrinkle. He says I won’t “party” with him anymore and won’t want to see bands play and won’t want to go drinking. Aside from the obvious pregnancy reasons for not doing any of the above, these have been issues over the years because I just want to be 36 and have dinners with friends and good conversations. And he wants very different things. These problems will not go away. I can only hope we can work through them. I think it’s a lot easier to be an older man with a younger woman, rather than the other way around.

To me age is only a number, indeed. I am 19 and recently started seeing a 38 year old. I decided I liked him before I knew his age, and we have so much in common and are comfortable around each other. We were both really shocked to find out how old the other one was though, and not sure if it is a problem or not yet since it’s still so fresh. In this case I think it’s good to just go with the flow and see if it works out or not, and if it doesn’t, it’s still a wonderful experience to develop a relationship with such special circumstances. I’m of course worried about what others will think (mainly my family and certain friends), even though I couldn’t care less about age. He’s still the same person that I fell for.
Good luck to others in the same situation! Things will hopefully work out for the best =)

I’ve recently met at great guy- 15 years older than myself. At first I was a bit worried about the age difference, but he treats me so well and his confidence is so appealing. I was worried about how my family and friends would take the age difference- but most of them seem to be fine with it. I really enjoy his company and I have realized that age does not matter as long as there is an equal level of respect and maturity.

Well, I’m a 39 year old man, was married a few years and had 2 kids, divorced now but very happy. My girlfriend is 18. Now, we’ve known each other for about a year, over that time we’ve got closer and closer to the point a couple of months ago that we realised we were in love. We’d never slept together or anything like that, but we had been intimate in other ways. My ex wife was 7 years younger than me and I thought we had a pretty good relationship, but what I have with my girlfriend is amazing. She is very mature, attends university which I am able to support her through, she has clear goals about her life and career and she loves me absolutely to bits. She is unable to have children of her own and the love and care she gives to mine is absolutely amazing, they totally adore her too. When we “came out” about it my ex hit the roof lol but she came around, as did all of our friends and family. I look after myself and I’ve been told I look closer to 30, she also looks early 20s so no worries but we’ve never had any problems in society, certainly no odd stares or anything like that. We have so much in common, but we have our own lives too, I still like to party and if anything it’s her who would rather stay in snuggled up with slippers and dressing gown on lol! At fist I was worried about being labelled a “pervert” or something, but then I realised the only couple of people that did say that behind my back were probably jealous lol! Anyway, we’re blissfully happy and hopefully will continue to be so and I wish others in this situation good luck!!

My patner is 15 years older than I am. The only time we discuss our age difference is when we are apart. When we are together there is nothing else that I want to do but look at him! The age doesn’t matter when we are together. We are still on the same level.
We began our relationship aware of the age difference but didn’t discuss it. We fell in love then became sexual. We also have distance problems but when we are together the moments are so special. We both want to be with each other desperatly but are afraid of relatives opinions.
Because of my lack of experience with relationships he is hesitant to come out about it as one of the reasons. He wants a relationship that will last and isn’t sure that I could love him forever because of the above reason.
We are madly in love and want to have children together and a home.
I never want to be with anyone else, he is that man of my dreams!

I am 25, dating a wonderful 53 year old and everything is going wonderfully. He knows he doesn’t want children, I am not completely sure. I am just afraid of waking up one morning in my mid-30s and being depressed because of the commitment I’ve made. I have no idea how I’ll feel in the future. All I know is that now is wonderful and I want it to stay this way.

I truely understand what everybody is going through. I have a hard life because I am soon to be married to a 21 year old man and I am only 15 years of age. He wants kids now, but I want a future and career. He dont understand, I’m still in school with two more years of it. He is continuing to tell me he’ll pay for me to get home schooled, but i just want a normal marriage. I understand that i am very mature but I still want some fun in my life instead of running after kids

Im glad I came across this. I am 25 and I am interested in a 41 yr. old. He is a young soul! I have also been told for my age to be an old soul and with that I feel we meet in the middle. I keep finding myself looking at him and asking is this right because of so many other peolple questioning the age. I have known him for over a year and I just gave him the time of day, lol. I thought it would be too weird and finally I called him to see if he wanted to go to breakfast and ever since then the feelings get stronger and stronger. Our personalities are something we have in common, a good sense of humor, wanting a family (he has no children) and setteling down soon one day. Now our differences can only be good… he does things that I have always wanted to get into like sports and outdoor fun. I know movies and music. So together him and i can teach each other things and learn together. Okay jumpin pretty far now My point is age is nothing its whats inside. Now the whole playboy thing…thats going a little too far I think. LOL

I am engaged to a 44 year old man and I am only 23. When I first met him I was extremely attracted to his confidence, and he knew exactly how to treat a women which I haven’t struck in guys my age!
I didn’t know his age until I had already fallen for him, and by then it didn’t matter.
I was really worried about telling my family because they are quite traditional, but they are coming around and I’m confident they will accept it as long as I am happy.
My only concern is with having children. He has a son my age but wants to have a child with me. I do too but am concerned about him being a father at 45+.
Anyway, bottom line is that love is what matters, a lot of people don’t find it in a life time so if you are lucky enough to then you should hold onto it with both hands!

I need some advice…I an 20 years old and I met a guy who just turned 31. We were attracted to each other before we found out about our age difference. I just assumed he was 25 or 26, but he told me he was actually 31. He told me he had no clue how old I was. To me, it’s only an 11 year difference and my parents have an 11 year difference. But I feel like he is against the whole idea…maybe because I get the feeling he wants to settle down and I still want a career before I get married.
Can someone please tell me what I should do? How should I talk to him about this?
I would greatly appreciate any feedback! Thank you so much!

I’m 28 and my girlfriend is 19 and we get along very well and we love each other very much.We both have the same goals and i like her that she’s not yet obsessed by her biological clock and wants to live her life.Women of my age all they want is to get married and have kids and I don’t want that yet i don’t feel mature enough for that.

I’m a 44 yr old female, in love with a 30yr old male, who has a 1yr old. It’s real love. Now that it is getting very serious, I am going to lose him b/c he wants a child…….

i dont know if anyone can anwers what i want to know has anyone ever met someone off the net and want more but him being in the army it will be 18mos before we could ever meet we have fallen for each other and its been two mos. and now he says its moving to fast and last words he said last time i talk to him was i love you i ask when would i hear from you again he hung up plz help

We differ 13 years in age (he is younger), met on line and lived 2000 miles apart. When we met face to face everything fell into place like we knew it would. We now live together and have set our wedding date. We’re over the moon with eachother and feel the luckiest people on earth. Age is nothing but a number and a state of mind. Life is short, and when real love crosses your path you’re a fool not to go for it and enjoy it to the fullest.

How did all you people meet?

I am 18 and interested in a 15 year old guy. We have talked about the age difference and the possibility of dating for over a year now. He is more mature than I am and we are on the same page about everything. My parents are completely against it because of the age difference. Yes, it’s going to be difficult, but how can I gain my parents’ support of our relationship without them thinking that I am irresponsible and immature?

i am 16 going on 17 and i am in love with a 22 year old
i think love is love u cnt put a age limit or anything

I have been with my bf for just over a year now. I am 25 and he just turned 42 (16 years and 5 months to be precise - for some reason I need to point everyone’s attention to that). We are both teachers and have the same things in common. We both still go out a lot. In fact, he goes out more than i do. Here’s where it gets difficult. I want kids in the next couple of years and he feels he would be too old.. but “would have them if it would make me happy”. Most of my friends are fine with it (not sure of their opinions when i’m not with them though) and my family also is supportive. Today, i went to a BBQ at a friends when i was greeted by her quite tipsy mother’s best friend who seemed quite content to ’say it like it is’. She believes that this relationship will go nowehere, it’s a time waster, it will never work and happily brought up scenarios in the future; 20 years or so, about how it will look then. Hence my internet searching for other opinions on the topic. This really hit home because; as hard as it is to say, I do supress a lot of these thoughts away and tell myself that it will work just fine.. but never take the time that is really needed to sit down and think this through. I am so in love with him and i do think its going well. I hate questioing us and myself but would also hate to make the wrong decision. So… if it’s true that love stands above all other issues, why does society feel the need to shout out about the calamity of it, and why do i keep listening to them.