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A Break in a Relationship Sometimes Saves It

So you feel as if nothing is working out in your life or maybe some things are working out for you but your current relationship has executed a wrong turn and has failed to find the right road again. If you are frustrated in your relationship or with your partner you might want to consider taking a break. Taking a break does not mean that you no longer love each other. A break does not mean that you will not resolve your issues within the relationship. A break is a common practice among people who are dating, live together or our married. Taking a break can lead to a sense of relationship renewal and better communication between you and your partner. If you are unsatisfied with your relationship there are a few things to consider before you decide to take a break.

First of all you should sit down and ask yourself why you are unhappy in the relationship. Make a list of the characteristics you love about your partner. Remember why you fell in love in the first place. Was it because of common interests or because they were what you needed at the time? All of us fall in love for different reasons. Next write down your partners characteristics that have been bothering you. See if there are any dangerous warning signs such as excessive alcohol use or a violent temper. After you have made your list carefully consider your goals in life, your life plan and figure out how your current relationship fits into this plan. Also, take into consideration that your relationship stress may have nothing do to with the relationship itself. You could be experiencing the pressure of financial stress or maybe you just faced a traumatic event or you feel overwhelmed in your life right now. Many times relationships suffer when external sources are negatively impacting us. Figure out what is going on in your life and separate the external stress factors. After you have carefully thought all of this through it is time to sit down and talk with your partner.

It is only fair that you are honest with your partner about your feelings. Nothing can be resolved without clear communication. Both of you should engage in a serious discussion about your relationship and where it is going. Your partner may be just as unhappy as you are. After all is said and done the two of you may decide to take a break. A relationship break is a healthy option that many couples benefit from. Sometimes it is necessary for people to take a break in order to figure out what they want or to view the relationship in a different light. During a break make sure to talk with your partner, check and see how things are going and discuss what you want for the future. Many couples that get back together after a break find their relationship to be stronger.

Some of us forget why we fell in love or our life has become burdensome and we just need to take a break from everything. A relationship break is not the end of the world. Sometimes a break is just the beginning as it leads to a more promising and fulfilling relationship in the future. A relationship break can cause us to realize that our partner is truly the love of our life.


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Well Im having an issue I’m 18 and my girl is 17 Im about to graduate and she’s in her junior, We been going out for a year now and 2 months in our relationship I made a mistake I almost cheated on her meeting I as bout to kiss the girl but the girl reminded me don’t i have a girl and i quickly got off and left… now Yesterday I came back to me the girl told my girls best friend and her best-friend told her and they caught me in the lying part of denying it cause i felt guilty and wanted to lock it away now she loves me but all her trust is gone and she took me back , We have a baby coming and i was her first, her problem she tells me is that even though I didnt cheat I keep things locked up and hidden, So she suggested we take 1 week no communication no seeing each other or texting or calls , until the week is over she says it will give her time to calm down and to get some time to think, But Im afraid to lose her what do you guys think I know she loves me but i dont want her to give up on me i want a future with her and a family I know im young but I been through so many girls and never has a girl made me feel the way she makes me feel, its something i truly cherish and admire and i dont wanna lose it at all cost, I seek help Effective and Immediately

NO COMMENTS ON HOW WE ARE YOUNG OR ANYTHING OF THAT MATTER PLEASE SAVE IT I JUST NEED GUIDANCE RIGHT NOW

Elliott / May 18th, 2010, 8:32 pm / #

my girl today told me that a break is healthy…she told me this after i got mad that she couldnt talk to me while she was with her best guy friend lawson…..should i be worried?

Justinian / May 22nd, 2010, 10:31 pm / #

I have a very serious problem,

I have been dating a girl for up to 2 years now, when we started she told me that she has dated a girl before. So we went on, later on she said she is not dating me again because of some useless reasons that she can cope again that her father use to beat her because of me.. So after then i noticed that she started dating her ex-boyfriend. She was a virgin then, cos she told me that she would like to keep her virginity before getting married, so i concored. The guy deflowered her and left her, even when she tried to call the guy, he always insult her, so i get to know about it. So i approach her again because of the love i have for her begged her to come back that i still love her so we came back.

I have been settling serious cases of boyfriends since then. Some guys will come to me that they are dating her, and i use to see some my self so she has been playing pranks on me dating other guys.

I get to know he is dating one guy, so both of us talk (myself and the guy) the guy told me how my girlfrind has been calling me her brother, and she (my girlfriend) told me that the guy is her friend. She swore to me that she has never kissed him before, but the guy told me that he has made love to her. So something happened.

Myself and the guy planned to sit the girl down to tell her to choose between us, whom she is going to be dating. All the secret i told the guy about our girlfriend; she went to tell our girl.

So on that day, we were sitted, but she refused to choose any of us.

The problem now is that, our girlfriend is angry with me, because she said i went to be telling the guy all her secret, the girl even told the girl how i said, i have been making love with her always, which i didnt say to him. So because of that she is really annoyed. (It happened 23rd May, 2010).

She told me to bring her pictures for her, that she is not dating me again, she wants to be dating the other guy. Her friend (my girl) told me that i should not worry that she is highly annoyed with me thats why she said so, that i should go and begged her; that she will still assit me. (because she used to tell me that her friend used to say she loved me more than the other guy).

The other guy even told me plenty things about our girlfriend, useless things, he even called her a prostitute.

Should i tell our girl all what he said?

My main problem is that i love her with the fullness of my heart that i can do anything for her, even i had quarrel with my uncle because of her, it was a serious case that i have to leave his house to rent elsewhere.

Should i continue to beg her? what will i do? i still love her very much.

Please help me on how to manage my relationship, i need your help please.

I will be more grateful if more suggestion is sent to my private mail from different individual.

Awaiting your swift response.

McManuel Jnr.
mikemanuel65@yahoo.com

McManuel Jnr. / May 24th, 2010, 3:10 pm / #

I still dont know why, maybe i dont use to give her money always, is it because of that she went to be dating other guys. Am not financial buoyant.

McManuel Jnr. / May 24th, 2010, 3:41 pm / #

I have been going out with her for 5 month now and i really do love her but i really dont like the idea of taking a break wat if after that she doesnt want to come back with me. Even though she saids that she loves and she is caming back with me that she just needs time to think oooo right she got mad at me cuz i broke up with her tham cuz i was really mad but i didnt like the idea of being in our on path. I dont noe what to do please help………… I begged to her to come back i dont noe wat to do pleaseee helpppp……..

jonatan / May 27th, 2010, 7:39 am / #

My gf and i have decided to have a break in our relationship. But in going through what the ‘break’ was i was confused but we have come to an agreement. i am 23 and my gf is 18. She has been in relationships since she was 14 and she is my first serious gf of 1 year. In this break she wants to gain some independence and act like a regular 18 yo go out and flirt and do things without the thought of hurting me. i have said i would give her all the time she needs to get her life in place and that we will still see each other during the duration. and when she gets passed her phase we will become official again and work on our relationship. We didnt really date when we were first going out i moved in with her because of family problems and we were inseparable ever since. During our break we agreed to doing what we like with others be it any type of sexual activity but will allways come back to each other in the end. is this wrong to do this or is this part of the break? i really dont want to lose her and want her to come back to me but i feel like im to clingy and cant let go. Have i done the right thing?

Andrew / May 30th, 2010, 7:50 pm / #

I have a serious problem

I been dating my boyfriend for 2 yrs and we have a beautiful babygirl who 1 yrs old I am 25 and he 21 yrs old and my boyfriend does a whole lot for me and he tells me that it is my turn to take care of him I dont live with him i still live with my parents but he gets tired of picking up bc i live 30 mints away and he says that hes tired of picking me and he says that i act like a child sometime and that i need a be more woman enuff so my bf is so stress out that he wanted to have a break but the only thing that pissing me off is that he has a so called best friend and shes living with my boyfriend and shes sleeping in the same bed with him i am so stress out i dont no what to think anymore

becky / June 3rd, 2010, 9:40 am / #

My partner and I have just agreed on taking a break. We’ve been talking about it on and off for around 9months about taking a break. We’ve been together for nearly two and a half years and have a 14month old daughter. We never seem to make the compromise because I feel that my daughter and I are not the number one on my partners list. My personality is definately wanting me to be number one on a list, and I can share that with my daughter, but not with my partners “hobby”. It’s nothing serious like drinking or going out with mates, but just doing his Remote Control Cars. His job keeps him away from home for four days a week, and I could handle that if I was with friends and family, but about 4 and a half months into our relationship, we moved 20hrs drive away from my friends and family. Since being here I have made a few friends, but I’m finding getting a job, and any satisfaction out of my life, besides my daughter, is nearly impossible. I’m constantly asking him for money, he makes all the big decisions in our relationship, and I take a backseat to nearly everything.
I’m just wondering if a break will help, or if it needs to be a complete seperation for good. I’m very lost on this subject.

Phoebe / June 5th, 2010, 6:46 pm / #

So glad i found this site and i now think that taking a break isnt for the worst, it can make you stronger.

hmw / June 10th, 2010, 7:00 am / #

Im thinking about taken a break to im just to overwhelemed wit my relationship and becoming a new mother and getting my life together….but I thank you so much for the advice because I wanted to take a break but I didn’t know how to go about it. So thank you so much.

lux / June 11th, 2010, 10:58 pm / #

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