Teenagers and piercing
The majority of customers in a piercing facility have not yet celebrated their twentieth birthday. Their interest in a body piercing underlines the connection between the teenage mentality and the drive to exhibit out-of-the-ordinary behavior. Any effort to address the topic of “teenagers and piercing” should begin with an examination of that connection.
Often a teen who wants to have a body piercing has expressed a need for greater self-esteem. Such a teen might lack self confidence. He or she might hope that the ability to display a pierced body part would earn the teenager some degree of admiration.
Yet not every teen who wants a piercing lacks self-confidence. Sometimes a teenager looks at a piercing as a way to regain a lost competence. Such a teen generally feels that he or she has not found a way to make a contribution to the larger society. If a teen can not feel a part of society, then he or she will look for a “group” to join. That could cause a teen to “join” the others who have agreed to a body piercing.
Parents who care to dissuade a teen from getting a body piercing should seek to increase his or her self-esteem. One way to accomplish that goal is by cautioning the teen against the use of self-putdowns. In other words, any parent who dislikes piercing should cringe at under-the-breath comments such as, “You klutz.”
A teenager who hears a great many disparaging comments from relatives, friends and teachers might also suffer from low self esteem. Parents who do not want to be told about a body piercing might therefore temper their remarks. They should seek to give their son or daughter plenty of constructive criticism.
A teenager who hears constructive, rather than disparaging, criticism stands a better chance of developing a strong self-esteem. Such a teen is more apt to become aware of his or her strengths. Because the teen does not focus on his or her weaknesses, that youth therefore feels less motivated to go after a body piercing.
A lack of self esteem can not explain all efforts by teens to obtain a body piercing. Sometimes a teen wants to increase his or her attractiveness. In that way, the request for a piercing could be seen as a venturing into the realm of sexual exploration. Many teenagers venture into that realm.
If a parent sees that a teen equates a piercing with personal attractiveness, then that parent might want to introduce the teen to customs in the far corners of the world. Among some African tribes, a boy or girl with a stick through the nostril would be considered attractive. In some regions of Asia, a person with a blotched face would be termed, “more attractive.”
After tackling the psychology that might drive a youth to seek a piercing, a parent needs to warn the teen about the health hazards of piercing.
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