Why I Hate Porn
The New American Webster Dictionary defines pornography as obscene art, writings, etc. Pornography is defined as something obscene, yet it is a billion dollar business. In 2006, the porn industry brought in over 13 billion dollars in revenue. Statistics further show that every 39 minutes there is a new pornographic video being created in the United States and there are 4.2 million pornographic websites available on the Internet. How can something so obscene capture the attention of so many? The answer is that porn appeals to our imaginations.
Pornography is not reality, it is fantasy. Porn is comprised of sexually stimulating imagery and fantasy elements. It provides an individual with immediate sexual gratification. If not careful, this desire for sexual gratification can lead to addiction. This addiction can then cause one’s life and / or career to be in jeopardy. It is not uncommon to hear about individuals being caught checking out porn at work. A career that may have taken years to build is suddenly over. The potential for addiction is just one reason why I don’t like watching porn.
Porn can be further defined as an erotic fantasy. This is similar in nature to a romantic fantasy, but the sex scenes are far more graphic. We have all seen our share of romantic movies. The characters change, but the plot is typically the same. A man and woman meet. They have a chemistry between them. At some point something in the story line keeps them from being together. In the end, they are reunited and live happily ever after. I’m sure we all wish life could be this wonderful, but it’s not. There is a little something called reality that we all must deal with. Adult movies are not reality. They do not depict acts that happen in real life. Porn sells you on the fantasy. People who become addicted to porn, in part, are in love with the fantasy world it creates. This is another reason why I don’t like watching porn.
The porn industry has taken our favorite fantasy characters and used them in sexual ways. This is called erotic fan fiction. Characters are taken from fantasy novels and movies, such as The Lord of the Rings, and put into porn. There is even a sub category of erotic fan fiction called elf porn. I don’t know about you, but I do not want to see my favorite hobbit engaged in some explicit sex act. Yet another reason why I don’t like watching porn.
Some may try to make the argument that porn can improve a married person’s sex life. The opposite is actually true, it can destroy it. Porn creates lustful feelings in people. Lust is defined as being the opposite of love. Watching porn with your spouse may bring immediate pleasure, but it won’t last. Lust makes one crave more. Soon the person will find him or herself looking for more exciting ways to meet his or her sexual needs. The fantasy will eventually take over and the spouse will not be able to meet those new expectations. This will create tension in the bedroom and the marriage will begin to suffer. This is why my husband and I do not like watching porn.
Porn is a billion dollar industry. As long as people crave it, there will be a market for it. An internet search will reveal advertisements for porn fantasy week vacations. These are all inclusive vacations that send travelers to porn sets all around the world with the promise of getting to “work” with the stars. Pornography transports people into fantasy worlds that offer immediate sexual gratification. If not careful, these fantasies can begin to take over one’s life. This can lead to devastating consequences. There is an easy solution, don’t watch it. Porn is not reality and that is why I don’t like watching porn.
Comments (4 comments)
Porn is ruining people lives. I am tired of people acting like its no big deal. It is a big deal. Porn has desensatized people and now sexualy imagry is everywhere. What used to be taboo is now seen as tame. I have seen marrieges ruined by the use of porn. I have heard it all, men at the internet for hours on end downloading porn. Its really sick
dawn / August 18th, 2007, 1:50 pm / #
I love you. whoever you are. for what you are doing. I am sure it will have a great healing effect upon people. all the best.
jayk / November 10th, 2007, 1:41 am / #
ok dawn, are you a woman, i thought so. maybe your views on porn would ruin a marriage, if both partners are ok with it where is the harm. my girl and i love to watch it all the time, and we have a healthy relationship and sex life.
daniel / November 11th, 2007, 5:06 am / #
First of all, “Lust is defined as being the opposite of love” is statement built ENTIRELY on your personal bias. For me, and a LOT of other people who’ve been in relationships, lust and love are quite intertwined. Lust is just as necessary for a realistic relationship as it love.
And secondly, I agree with Daniel. I mean, I’m a girl, and I love watching it with my boyfriend. It sets the mood for us sometimes, [I say SOMETIMES because we don't NEED it to get things started.] And it’s fun. Our relationship is completely healthy. I even don’t mind my boyfriend downloading it and watching it alone. It makes him happy. And good knows, I do it too. So it would be unfair for me to restrict him from doing it.
I get that porn has the ABILITY to idealize their lovers and expect a bit more from them. But not every person is that high up in the clouds; believe it or not, a lot of us have a good grip on reality. When I’m done watching my porn, and go have sex with my boyf I definitely don’t expect him to have the glistening six pack and powdered butt that I just finished staring at. I know what my boyf is and what he can offer me, and I love it. I don’t compare it to porn.
Like you mentioned, people tend to have romantic fantasies. I agree, but if people can learn to distinguish between romantic fantasy romantic reality, then why does it occur as shock to know that a lot of people can also distinguish between carnal fantasy and carnal reality.
Brittany / September 17th, 2008, 11:00 pm / #
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