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Long Lasting and Happy Relationship – Is It Real?

Is it possible to have that perfect long lasting, loving relationship? Love relationships are based on sentimental values and thoughts but also on real life situations and feelings and not on romantic idealism. It is essential that each partner be emotionally healthy to be able to commit to a stable long lasting relationship.
There are a few elements that should exist in each individual before a stable relationship can occur and they are:

  • Personal Integrity – Those people that know who and what they want out of life are true to themselves. A successful relationship is based on two whole individuals who know who they are and what they want out of life. When they know this they are more willing to share who they are, and respect others for who they are and what they want out of life. People who are always changing their opinion and don’t have any direction in their lives are less likely to have long lasting successful relationships. They are not content with themselves or with what they accomplish in life, and so find it hard to share what they don’t have with another person. A person who is secure in himself or herself has happiness, serenity, and dignity, all qualities that are worth sharing with another person.
  • Personal growth – Another important factor in keeping that perfect loving relationship is to focus on personal growth. Partners should embrace and motivate each other in their personal growth. If it’s not taken into account the relationship becomes stagnate and doesn’t evolve. Healthy relationships create space and time for self improvement if a person’s evolvement is influenced by his or her partner in a negative way it causes domination and dwarfs the other person’s growth. When this happens to a couple they stop enjoying each other’s company and the spontaneity of the relationship. When people grow within a relationship they tend to care for each other more and share more of themselves. This caring and sharing then becomes even more important than the shared sexual relationship.
  • Love yourself before expecting anyone else to love you – Waiting for someone to dedicate their entire life to you is the stuff of romantic novels. In real life no one can dedicate themselves entirely to another. If one of the goals of the relationship is personal wellbeing and the knowledge that each individual is responsible for their own well being then the relationship will be a strong one and will probably be a lasting one. In other words the principle of I’m O.K. your O.K. is well founded here, and is essential for a long lasting loving relationship. This status of wellbeing is not possible when we are controlled by our emotions and not in control of them.

When your life is full and enriched and you value yourself you are more capable of giving and receiving love in a healthy relationship. Each of you seeks self improvement and self love, and is willing to share these qualities with each other. This then allows you to admire and respect the other person and also allows you to continually be interesting to your partner. When both partners seek this well being and self improvement and share their knowledge and feelings, then it is almost certainly a very strong and loving relationship that is not based on sexual interest alone.


Comments (4 comments)

this article is the best and it’s true

Sadida Barnes / June 6th, 2007, 12:45 am / #

Sally and i met while i was in the 6th grade, but she was 1 grade above me. so now she just began 9th grade and i began 8th. we vowed we would wait for eachother because we love eachother passionately. we believe we are eachothers “one” marrige is on both our minds, as well as sex but when we grow older.

-will she wait for me? and will this last?

Adam / August 21st, 2007, 12:24 pm / #

Well, I find myself in a similar situation. I’m 15 and so is my current partner, we too have our lives set to be together. We currently live in separate towns so we don’t see each other too often, so when we get the chance – we take advantage of every opportunity. She and I have both agreed not to get too carried away in ourselves because we still have our entire lives ahead of us after all we are only young and the decisions we make now will affect us for the rest of our lives.

So, if it truly is love you are feeling for each other, of course she will wait for you, but if it doesn’t happen like that, try not to be too disappointed – there’s still plenty of opportunity. Anyhow, good luck!

Hamish / October 30th, 2007, 6:35 pm / #

me and brandon meet when we were in the 8th grade
i see acts of love we possess in those who are married
yet we are only teens
we wish to take our love much further
we know the difficulty acquired to achieve this
but we want to over come obstacles
and love eachother no matter what
with his band and my education
it makes it much harder

although we only believe this love can be ever lasting
i want a child
and so does he
but we know we’re not ready

were engaged
young
and in love
nothing with ever stop us
well prove to everyone
this love is true

Bianca QuiГ±ones / April 5th, 2008, 9:17 am / #

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