Myths and Facts on Anal Sex

At one time every state in America had a law against sodomy. According to the Associated Press as recently as 1960 every state still had an anti-sodomy law, though several states didn’t actively uphold them. They were just old laws that still happened to -be on the books.

Alabama, Florida, Idaho, Louisiana, Mississippi, North Carolina, South Carolina, Utah and Virginia still prohibit sodomy today. Yes that’s right, it’s illegal to have anal sex with your spouse in your own home. Kansas, Missouri, Oklahoma and Texas prohibit sodomy between same sex partners only. And in 1968 Georgia became the first Southern state to retain sodomy as a felony and made it applicable to lesbians. In 1986 the Georgia sodomy law prompted the United States Supreme Court decision that homosexual sodomy is not a fundamental right.

Those are the legal facts. But there are beliefs about anal sex out there too, myths if you will. One myth easy to bust is that anal sex is only enjoyed by homosexuals. That is absolutely not true. Many heterosexuals enjoy anal sex. In some cultures where virginity is still prized, women engage in anal sex in their young adult years before marriage, so they can still have some fun and yet be a “virgin” in the technical sense on their wedding night. The younger generation, in many cultures, has recently explored oral and anal sex so they don’t have to worry about unwanted pregnancy.

Some important information to know is that the anus does contain its own natural bacteria- so nothing that goes into it should go into any other part of the body without first being thoroughly washed. The anus isn’t actually “dirty” per se, yet another myth we can bust. It can be cleaned just like the rest of the body. But remember, once something is inserted into the anus, that something may contain the same bacteria naturally found in the anus and steps should be taken not to spread that bacteria anywhere else.

Another easy myth to bust is that anal sex is painful and causes hemorrhoids, fissures, tears or even incontinence. If anal sex is causing pain, it’s not being done right, according to Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, author of “What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex.” She also states that anal sex does not cause hemorrhoids, fissures, tears, or incontinence. She’s referring of course to consensual anal sex. Damage can be done to any orifice in the crime of rape.

The only myth mankind really cannot prove true or false is whether or not sodomy is in fact a “crime of nature” or “crime of God.” That’s a personal decision that each individual must decide for themselves.
For more information there are also many magazines, websites, clubs, chat rooms etc. that sing the praises of anal sex. For oils lubricants and toys there are a multitude of choices. Remember Mom’s Tupperware Party? Well now there are sex toy parties; Clubvibes, Brown Bag Party, Passion Parties, and Fantasy Inc just to name a few.

Comments (21 comments)

im 12 yrs old and at a party thing i got slightly drunk and had anal sex with one of my best m8z. does this mean i am gay?

tom / October 23rd, 2007, 5:10 am / #

Well, would you have done it if you were 100% straight with no interest in other guys? Probably not. Maybe you’re just bisexual. But you’re definitely not straight.

One thing is for sure: Using “m8z” makes you gay.

Him / October 13th, 2008, 9:54 pm / #

thats really ignorant and unhelpful.

no, it doesnt mean your gay.
you could be, you should try to explore the idea, and think about who yoir generally attracted to, because if you are its not a bad thing at all.

but u also could have just been experimenting. people make dumb choices, espeically when theyre that young, and/or whle drunk. and they experiment, and that could be all it was.

dont listen to the idiot above^^

sarah / December 11th, 2008, 2:25 pm / #

I can not believe that neither of you have commented on this lads age! 12 years old. He shouldnt even be putting himself in these situations yet!!
How can a 12 year old even be thinking about wether he is gay or not!! Call me ignorant, but how are these children in our society even trying these things??
Your mind is not mature enough to even make these decisions.
Please you are 12 years old, do not put yourself in this sort of postion again, im sure your parents would be devastated to know you are trying these things.
i am gobsmacked that you are even discussing these things,let alone try it.
Please just be your age, you have plenty of time to experiment sexual things when you are old enough to know what you are doing.

helen/ january 3rd, 2008 12.59 / February 3rd, 2009, 9:05 pm / #

Well said helen,
I am shocked!!!
I cant believe how a 12 year old can think of doing such a thing! I dont see any guilt here. These kids have no respect for their bodies, nor for their parents. , I would like to know what the parent of kids of same age think about this incident?

bobby / February 23rd, 2009, 7:48 am / #

im 14 and my gf loves to use a dildo on my anus. i also have anal sex with her. anal is great!!!

Luv anal / February 27th, 2009, 12:38 pm / #

Tom is already in this situation and he is asking questions about it. Sarah and HIM have at least provided somewhat helpful opinions. Helen, your advise is good advise as well but you are ignorant. 11 and 12 is the age at which experimentation and questions are becoming pretty common.

Tom, you don’t have to put a label on your sex life. I don’t believe you should have one yet, but it sounds like you may. My advise…if you choose to have sex of any sort, use protection, enjoy it, and don’t worry about labels.

JT / March 6th, 2009, 3:16 am / #

i have heard that if you are 2 relaex when haveing anal sex you can actually shite your self is this true coz it is putting me oof the idea or havein anal sex and i really want to try it

jax / April 2nd, 2009, 7:31 am / #

Helen, it would seem that you are trying to stop him thinking about it. I knew i was gay at the age of 12, and had known for ages before that. Does that make me a horrendous person for thinking it? To ignore such thoughts creates people who could quite possibly go through later life repressing who they really are.

HOWEVER, you shouldnt be having sex at the age of 12, and the fact that you know about such things and would do it, speaks volumes about your social life, as well as the apparent lack of parenting as well as a terrible sense of judgement, even without the alcohol, which, is another story together.

Also, the fact that you ‘had’ anal sex, seems to imply that you had experimented previously, as anal sex, for anyone, let alone a child, is an extreme conclusion, something that again, leads to the assumption that there has been a serious lack of communication in your life.



David / April 14th, 2009, 12:55 am / #

So about this whole bit…I’m with Jax- Can you shit yourself when you’re having anal? Can you fart when you have anal? Do you need anything like a special anal lube? ANYTHING?

Nikki / May 4th, 2009, 9:31 am / #

you can relax, you do not need special lube. you can shit yourself, it happened to a girl to whom i was performing anal sex. I would suggest using lube unscented and very not special. i would suggest trying to be “empty”. Go number 2 and then take a shower then have a good night with your man there is nothing to fear and as long as the other party is willing to work with you slowly while you get used to it and learn together what will make the experience enjoyable and not for you then you should have no problems whatsoever. With women the main problem i have encountered has been nerves. I am 22 and have had anal sex with 6 different girls. Everyone of them had heard there entire lives “oh god it is going to hurt so much i would never do that,” from all thier girlfriends. You must relax or it will hurt at first, and even when it is being done perfectly it will hurt for the first ten or so full strokes then it begins to feel good and in some cases VERY GOOD, I would say for the person worried about having an accident it is 1in a million chance , and for anyone else still reading if you want to keep the man you got practice and learn how to get him off in every way there is and then you got him for life!! not that we want women to not also treat us well and be nice but we can make exceptions for other parts of your behavior lacking when you do things very well : )

Ian / August 2nd, 2009, 5:56 pm / #

okay, so. studies recently discovered that the youngest age of binge drinking amoung adolescents can be as young as 8, if that IS an adolescent… and sexual experimentation basically comes hand in hand with drinking amonga dolescents, so having everyone throwing judgements in this boys way, is a very un educated thing to do. my peers were delving in sexual experimentation before i ever hit high school, or before i was 12 more to the point. and it was not an uncommon occurence. lets not judge this boy with our uneducated opinions, and listen to his cry for understanding. i personallly would not worry about this encounter too much, as i too have dabbled in sexual encounters with those of the same sex, sometimes not of a concious mind, neverthe less, these things happen. and we should take these experiences and use them to build up a strong structure and understanding of who we are as individuuals!

Anon / September 7th, 2009, 10:54 pm / #

iv heard all this stuff about hiv from anal sex but does it come from that or does 1 of the ppl doing it have to have it 1st and is there anything els u can get from anal besides stds if your not useing a condom?

bob / October 22nd, 2009, 9:10 pm / #

I am 11 years old and I’ve already had vaginal, anal, and oral sex with ten different guys, but I just can’t get pregnant. I have already had my period, so why can’t I get pregnant?

jenny / December 23rd, 2009, 2:46 pm / #

Oh my gosh Jenny!
Number one: you aren’t even old enough to be on this site
and Number two: you are way to young to have sex, much less give birth!
Does your mother know about any of this? Having a child is a huge responsability; I am sure you aren’t old enough to handle childbirth!!!

Tina Story / December 28th, 2009, 11:43 am / #

Actually nowadays I personally don’t think it’s uncommon for people of 11 years to have sex, it’s happening all the time with young people I myself and 14 and I am a virgin but I know many people younger than me who have had sex!
I personally feel it’s important if your sexually active to ask questions if your unsure of things….rather than make a horrible mistake because you weren’t educated…

Hayley / January 2nd, 2010, 8:01 am / #

I make my boyfriend wear cling film over his ‘thingie’ whilst we’re having anal sex, so if i do accidently poop a bit, it can be cleaned up quickly and easily afterwards.

Nuala / January 10th, 2010, 11:39 am / #

My girlfriend loves to have anal sex. I let her do it with other men because thats not cheating

Joe Beerbower / January 23rd, 2010, 1:19 pm / #

Hmmm.. you make your boyfriend wear cling film during anal.. lol
Whatever next tesco shopping bags coated in bread crumbs in replacement of a condom with ripped sensation.

Chaz / January 24th, 2010, 4:17 am / #

Hi Jenny,

I really do hope that you return to this site and can see my comment. My dear, i think you should start by asking yourself why you want to get pregnant in the first place. It seems like ypu have a lot of love to give and a craving to nurture another being. It is a wonderful thing to mother a child, but believe me it comes with huge responsibilities beyond anything you may know now. Please, please and please, take out time to speak with a qualified person about your birthing desires and your sexual habits. If you cannot speak to your mother or any one else around you, do seek some professional help. I will be happy to share my thoughts with you by private mail/discussions if you like, but it is always better to get some help – deal with the basic issues of the “whys” first before getting into anything you may regret.

I am not sure if your desire is to have sex/or a baby fill a need, loneliness or fantasy, but there is definitely something of love and tender care you need filled which neither act or opetion you have shared will bring you at this time. I am glad you have reached out somehow by sending in your comment (even though you are a little young for this site – but I am not judging you), I do hope a qualified and balanced thinking professional can help you…otherwise I hope good hearted adults in your area/locale will be able to assist you without condemning you. Either way, I pray you find the kind of love that fills you completely and does not take away your innocence or change your body/mental health the way casual sex or having a baby at a premature age can do. I pray also that the true God finds you – He is able to give such complete love and joy, that all things joyful will come to you – sex (in its varied aceptable forms) and babies!!!

Hi Tom,

I think you should try to take your mind off the harmful practices for a while – alchohol, anal sex, homosexuality, even heterosexuality and just focus on healthier issues. I do not think you should trap yourself into a box and label yourself in any way. You hae come into this worl unique…time reveals such uniqueness and trying to chart a course for yourself so early in life could stifle that….breathe, abstain and calmly observe all that life offer, before making a choices – either way.

All the best!!

Donna Ogunnaike / May 17th, 2010, 8:43 pm / #

I’m 16 and I’ve never had anal sex before, but I have had a guy try to do it without asking me, out of nowhere I felt this horrible pain and almost cried! That was just totally not cool, he felt so bad and appologized so many times.

Addison / May 23rd, 2010, 1:47 pm / #

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