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Talk to us Please… What we need to hear from Parents.

Parents, we need to hear from you! Sometimes, it seems impossible to start a two-way conversation with your child. A lot of the times, we feel that we are too old to sit down and talk to mom and dad, but we’re not. Talk to us about the problems we face the most. Remember, we need your opinions, your guidance, your support, and most of all your love.

First of all, you might ask, “What are the problems that our teenagers face the most?” I’ll tell you plainly. Sex, drugs, and violence. These are the things that you should talk to us about the most. Also, when we come in from school, if you ask us what we did in school, never accept, “Oh, nothin’” as your answer. Talk to us about teachers, schoolmates, and grades. But, if we go in our room and shut the door, that probably isn’t the best time for you to walk in and talk to us. Wait until a time when you think we might be more receptive to what you have to say.

When you find the time to talk to us always listen first. Then, give us your opinions on what we talked about. We need to know how you feel. But one thing you don’t do is try to force your opinion on your child. Tell us what you would do or how you would’ve handled a problem if you were in our shoes.

Also, we need your guidance. Tell us how you don’t approve of violence and what other ways we can settle conflicts. Tell us about the drastic effect that sex and drugs can have on us physically and mentally. If school is the area in which we need assistance, offer your help, but don’t push it. If grades are where improvement is needed, how about suggesting an afterschool tutorial program? If your help is rejected by your child, don’t feel bad, it’s just phase.

In addition to guidance, we need your support. Talk to us and tell us that you’re always here to give help if it’s needed. Whatever choices we have to make, talk to us and tell us that you’re behind us all the way (as long as the choice made by your child is reasonable).

And, the last and most important thing of all is that you not only show us, but tell us repeatedly that you love us. With your help, you can make the journey through the confusing adolescent years just a little better. Talk to us. Parents, we need to hear from you!

“Let’s Talk Month” Essay Contest Winners Middle School Level
Tiffany Doggett, Age 12, W.E. Waters Middle School


Comments (15 comments)

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Showrav Saha / November 8th, 2008, 8:57 pm / #

The human brain does not fully mature until approx. 24 to 26 years of age. In a modernized and complex society teenage sexual activity is almost always a bad choice, there are just too many problems to mention although the one that usually happens first is obsession and compulsion which leads to misconceptions of sexual orientations. this is done by Oxytocin which is a brain chemical that bonds the two people during sexual intercourse by emotional thought processes from the physical responses of the genitals and climax, Biology 101. This is to bond the parents to one another and to their children, Adults behave only as mature as they have been raised to do so, If allowed to behave immaturely and childish during their teenage years then they will require more time as adults to behave as a responsable adult.

Ed Night / December 31st, 2008, 5:25 am / #

I think being a virgin until married has been misconstrued to mean being unexposed.wat do you think?

Tina owen / March 2nd, 2009, 10:29 pm / #

Hi Im melissa
Im 17 and im still a virgin i never had a boyfriend.
I keep thinking that if i do have a boyfriend I might be force to have sex.
I kind of want to do it. i want to know if its fun, Enjoyful i dont know .
But I’m scared i’ll get pregnant young and that scares me.
Help me tell me what to do . why i feel this way.

Melissa / April 12th, 2009, 6:20 am / #

hi Melissa
nice to hear that u r 17 and till virgin that’s very nice but i want to say u that don’t be scared to having sex or boyfriend because all of that things are our part of life so don’t be afraid go on but having a boyfriend doesn’t sound bad but if u go the way that your boyfriend goes that’s wrong (if he chooses wrong ways like drugs violation etc) that’s not good for your boyfriend and as well as yourself also so try not to do such things and if your boyfriend wants to do that first try to stop him if he not listen to you then u start keeping distance from him.Having a boyfriend is good for u because u r now in age enjoy and really that’s the age to enjoy so enjoy!!And for sex so sex is also an important part of our life but in sex there are some limitation or u can say precautions!!! so don’t exceed them that’s all i want to say…And if u want o ask me something more u can call me here’s my cell number 014-9249894. I am residing in Malaysia.And here’s my e-mail add evilgenuis_no1@live.com.

THANKS
Regards
HAMZA
LiFe Is BeAuTiFuL sO EnJoY iT!!!!!!

HAMZA / April 13th, 2009, 10:54 pm / #

Melissa. Thinking you are pregnant at a young age
is very scary. I’m 15 and when I was 14, the first
time I had sex, I was freaking out hoping I wasn’t
pregnant. It’s a thing that I’m not going to worry
about until I want to have a baby. I haven’t had sex
since and I only did that one time. It hurt me so
emotionaly, I couldn’t handle it. I cried everyday.
Stay a virgin until the time is right. And not all guys
want is sex, there are still some good guys out there.

Desiree / April 15th, 2009, 11:28 am / #

HII.. Melisa..
virginity is not dignity but lack of oppurtunity..! I hope u have sex as soon as possible and enjoy the outcome of it such as fun.relaxation.pleasure and a lot of other things which cannot be expressed in terms of words …

playboy / May 26th, 2009, 7:22 pm / #

im brooke, i’m seventeen. I’ve been with my boyfriend for about three and a half years. he is going to be 18 in about two months, and we still haven’t had sex. the main reason is because i am afraid that i will get pregnant! We are both virgins, so i’m not really worries about std’s or anything like that. I really want to do it with him, and we have gotten really close, but i end up getting scared before it happens. We talk about it all the time and are booth on the same page. he respects me and all of my decisions and wouldn’t want to do it if i wasn’t ready. i know that we will do it in about two months…but what are all of the things that we can do to be extra extra safe? so far i’m thinking to use a condom with spermocidal lubricant, make him cum like 30 minutes before we do it, and for him to pull out. what else can we do!? and when is the best time to do it as far as my period goes? please help i’m going crazy!

brooke / June 11th, 2009, 11:29 am / #

MY NAME IS HASSAAN I AM 17 AND I AM STILL A VIRGIN I HAVE NEVER DATED ANY GIRL BUT I LOOK FORWARD TO .I BELIEVE THAT A PERSON SHOULD ONLY HAVE SEX IF HE OR SHE IS MARRIED TO SOMEONE BECAUSE IT WILL PROVIDE PROTECTION TO BOTH COMPANIANS .FUCKING AROUND WITH EVERY ONE OR ANYONE IS THE WAY OF ANIMALS IN FACT WILD ANIMALS BUT PUR SOCIETIES HAVE ADOPTED THIS WAY OF LIVING WHICH MIGHT NOT BE WRONG FOR EVERYONE BUT IT IS WRONG FOR ME.

HASSAAN / June 14th, 2009, 5:23 pm / #

This has been a conversation taken time and again since I can remember with my parents and with my parents parents. Being a recently new parents I’ve come to learn that you need to see past your differences and be a great listener first before you can be a great friend.

How was this accomplished being a parent with children. Though my child is 8 months old tomorrow, and parents with older children may say you have it easy my child is 13 and doesn’t listen to anything I say. Well it all starts from square one. This start is knowing most importantly your child’s personality. Everyone you speak with says my personality is unique. What’s interesting about this small but critical piece is that only four personalities exist. Before questioning and saying not possible, there is a book called personality plus. After reading light bulbs went off and wow there really is only four. What we all have are different characteristics within one of those four that makes us unique. These charactertistics are our own personal experiences.

Once you understand your child’s personality you will have an ehanced relationship since you will know how to speak your child’s language.

Another book worth referencing is The five love languages. These two books together are worth every penny.

Jerry / June 18th, 2009, 8:43 am / #

use a condom melissa… duh sex is proven to make you happier

shaun / July 2nd, 2009, 2:25 pm / #

My name is Manisha.. Plz kept this secret what i am going to say… Lat week I had my first sex with my best friend and he fucked me for 10 times in my cunts. Now my vagina is paining though he used condom. What I should do?

Manisha / July 3rd, 2009, 4:26 pm / #

hai,
i’m 24 years old male, masturbation is good for health…?
it will reduce our weight?
please clear my doubts….

jana / August 9th, 2009, 2:45 am / #

hi im 18 years old and i love sex…it makes u happier and relaxes u but there is limites to sex aways make sure to use a condom there are too many stds but i could say i made some mistake in the past i already have a lil girl and im expecting again but i do learn for my mistake all i can say is wrap it up and stay in control of your life by any means

Ronte / September 4th, 2009, 11:54 pm / #

how days after ministration im able to sex without condom

Anonymous / December 4th, 2009, 2:33 pm / #

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