What To Do If You Have Been Raped, and Prevention Tips
Rape is the usual word for the act of one person forcing another to have sex. Rape is one of the most horrible things to happen to a person. It is not only painful and traumatic, but it is hard to forget. Men and women can be raped. Men and women can be rapists, although it’s mostly men. Women rapists tend to stick objects painfully into the genitals and anus of their mostly female victims. If you remember nothing else of this article, please remember this – rape is not the victim’s fault. It’s the fault of the rapist only.
Many rape victims have painfully discovered their rapist was not a stranger, but someone they thought they knew, such as a husband, boyfriend, teacher or even a family member. They have different sets of problems and recovery needs than those who have raped by strangers. This article will concentrate on those who’ve been raped by strangers.
Preventing rape is very difficult, because of forces you can’t control. It’s akin to trying to find a place on Earth that will never have an earthquake. Any place on Earth can have an earthquake, but some places more than others. You must use common sense when you go out on a date or go to a new place. Try not to drink any alcohol or take drugs, which can slow down your reactions or make you act provocatively to others. Keep in well-lit, well populated areas. Walk confidently, even when lost, so you put off the appearance that you know exactly what you are doing. Keep a cell phone on you for emergencies. Before you go out, have some sort of calling check in arrangement with a family member or trusted friend. For example, if they haven’t had a call from you by 11pm, they know you are in trouble and need to call the police.
Bad things do happen. Despite following common sense and these prevention tips, you might still get raped. It’s not your fault.
After the attack, try and breathe. You will get through this. As soon as the rapist is gone and you can safely move about, you have to get to the police or a hospital IMMEDIATELY. Do not comb your hair, get washed or even try to put your clothes back on. You could destroy evidence that could put your rapist in jail. A lot of rape victims never report their attack because they are afraid they will not be believed. If you go into a police station or a hospital with bruises, ripped clothes and black eyes, no one can say they don’t believe you.
A lot of embarrassing things will happen during the rape investigation. But they are not done to ridicule you – they are done to help you. You will be photographed, most likely naked, for evidence to prove you were attacked. You will have to have your anus and genitals checked for any semen deposits, which hold vital DNA evidence. Your fingernails may be checked to see if you scratched the rapist and maybe caught some DNA fragments or even thread fragments. You will have to tell the story of your rape over and over again for procedures, and to check that you are not lying. The police will check your past to see what kind of persona you are. They’re not doing it to humiliate you. They are honestly trying to make the best case for you that they can.
Recovering from rape is the same as recovering from a sudden death, or a natural disaster. It will take time. You might not believe this – but you will feel better one day. There are many people, organizations, doctors and friends who are there to help you. Take some time to grieve, and definitely follow your doctor’s advice, but try to live as normal a life as possible afterwards. The familiar routine is a slave that helps your spirit and mind to heal more quickly than hiding away.
I hope you will never be raped, but is the worst should happen, I hope these words can provide some help and comfort in your time of grief and healing.