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Long Distance Relationships

Susan and Randy spent a wonderful two weeks together at the beach during his leave from the marines. Stationed in Kosovo, Randy was not expecting to meet anyone quite like Susan. Not believing in “Love at First Sight”, Randy spent his free time with Susan and the two, before Randy’s leave was over, pledged to marry one another. While writing and emailing with a few phone calls in between, the two maintained their romance until the following year when Randy was able to take another leave and come back to Susan. The two wed and lived happily ever after.

This is not the norm in the world today. Dating has become a “at your own risk” situation and some have ended horribly. The online dating sites would have you to believe that if you both meet certain criteria that it’s a match made in heaven. What they don’t tell you is that perverts and serial killers have used these same sites to gain access to some of the most vulnerable and unsuspecting victims. Ending in rape, murder, cult sacrifices and other life threatening situations, not too many people are eager to become involved in online dating these days. Who could blame them?

However, there is such a thing as “love at first sight” and even more familiar is the “he just grew on me” kind of love. Neither is less intense than the other, they simply develop differently. The starry sky and the gentle breeze don’t always blow on the fateful night you meet your future husband or wife. Sometimes you meet in a tumultuous situation. Maybe he’s the police officer who was dispatched to a domestic fight; maybe during a thunderstorm you both sought shelter in the same bus stop. It doesn’t matter, when love is going to happen between two people, it’s going to happen no matter what.

Like in Romeo and Juliet, however, things just simply don’t always work out the way they should. Outside influences such as a job transfer can put things on the back burner for a while, but we remember the movie “You’ve Got Mail” with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan, right? The movie depicts a small book shop owner who is fighting the “big book retailer” moving in around the corner. Unbeknownced to her, she is emailing the owner of the big chain about her problems, what a jerk this guy is and so forth. When the two of them decide to meet face to face, she arrives first and waits patiently. He, however, is nervous and looks from outside the restaurant for the “woman holding a rose”. Much to his shock and pleasant surprise, it’s the little book shop owner. He leaves and continues the email communication and eventually asks her to meet him. They both meet face to face and admit their love for one another and go off living happily ever after.

This does happen in real life and, if you’re open to new experiences, it can happen to you. Being true to yourself and putting “first things first” will help you find that special someone when the time is right…after all, doesn’t love conquer all?


Comments (5 comments)

long distance relationships can be good in the beginning but not in the end when you get dumped over distance.

i tried it loved my partner like crazy n after he cheated on me once i still took him back and 6 months later he dumps me and said distance was the reason why.

think before you jump into a long distance relationship

cap / December 1st, 2008, 3:15 pm / #

i agreed to an 8-month distance from my love. it’s been 4 so far and our love has grown substantially, despite the lack of sex or physical presence. it’s beautiful, and if you have to enter into a relationship and *you both are really determined*, then it WILL work.

Alex / July 15th, 2009, 2:11 pm / #

I agree im 16 and have met this girl and i know it sounds wierd but we have something that is undescribale and i save my money to see her and although we dont have each others presence we know we have each other through anything and it built up to more and more opportunities to be together and although her and i live this high life we know our feelingare strong enough to make it work

Maz / September 22nd, 2009, 5:18 am / #

Well im 17 and my boyfriend who’s 18 of a year and 2 months has moved in December ’09.His mom has cancer and she wanted 2 go 2 North Carolina to be with her other 2 kids 2 be happy.Meanwhile im still in NY.He wants to keep the relationship going but me on the other hand isn’t so sure if it’ll work.P.S. we both love eachother dearly and HE even wants 2 get married.i simply laugh at that fact.But im so confused

Crystal / December 28th, 2009, 10:15 pm / #

i met this girl on myspace &` she is 17 and lives in Buffalo,NY ; while i was 13 buhh turned 14 in December. i live in Brooklyn,NY …. we made one month, almost 2 buhh then she broke my heart. i was deeply in love with her and kinda still am. she says part of it was the long distance that was killing her. smhhh i was planning to go see her and almost got my ticket buhh then she broke up with me to go out with some other bitch tht was her “best friend” and she couldnt wait to go see her… they are now abt to make 2months tomarrow.. i dont wish them tha best &` i PRAY that they brake up !

jasmine / March 13th, 2010, 8:27 am / #

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